Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: The Sunday Times bestseller, with over 1 million copies sold Hardcover – 6 Jan. 2022

When my husband died I realised that although I had lost parents and a dear younger sister I had not experienced the full impact of grief. I already possessed the book and could not remember if there was a section dealing with grief. I looked and found a few relevant chapters . There, it was as though someone was talking to me, knowing exactly the pain I was experiencing. It didn't stop the process but it really helped me to know that what I was feeling was completely normal. I had purchased the book because I thought it would be interesting but it turned out to be a real support to me in a way I didn't expect.

I really enjoyed this book, it taught me a lot about different aspects of life and I will continue to refer back to it.

Particularly loved how Smith teaches you ways to maintain your mental health throughout her book. Maintenance is key, and this book serves as a toolkit to do just that. I always love a book that is packed with research and facts, and this book satisfies that

Dr Julie is fab and her advice is brilliant. It’s an easy read format and a book you can just keep picking up.

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Wish this book had been published years ago. Easy to use as you don't need to read it from cover to cover.

I have mixed feelings about this book. There's some very strong sections written reliably and that are helpful, reminding me of therapy undertaken taken in the past.Some parts however feel very opinionated and possibly influenced by wanting to create social media friendly soindbites. They can even be dangerous.Take for example the subheader "You don't need to work on your self esteem"This section quickly, actually, turns into a section on aiming to be "successful". These are not the same thing.It feels as though this was misleading and an attempt to hit certain notes and create an ahhh moment rather than being accurate.Self-esteem IS important. And if you don't attach it to being "successful" then it can be absolutely fine to work on it. This headline in the book is misleading and can make you think you shouldn't work on self esteem. I just think that's really unhelpful to convolute phrases like that, especially to people that can be feeling vulnerable and needing help.The notion of not chasing success is fine, and certainly relevant to a world of social media. But that's just it - this feels reverse engineered to meet that customer base, and that just annoys and disappoints me. I expected better or somebody so qualified.I think the author is commenting on certain toxic positivity in regards self esteem and I think she should just be clearer about that rather than saying "don't work on your self-esteem" like.. what the hell, what kind of statement is that?! We shoild cherish and protect our self-esteem, that's the truth. Is the author confused, or just willing to be misleading for a catchy subheading? It's clearly aimed at the social media market that has tried to capitalise on this word, but it's just as bad.So yeah, you need to be careful with this author. She doesn't use words accurately and perhaps more for effect, or at least convolutes meaning in an unhelpful way.Shame because it's got some really strong points and I love the feel of it.

Great product